Wednesday, October 3, 2007
WHY DONT YOU CHANGE?
This post has been in the making for quite some time so here goes:
Its very late and I'm past tired and I expect to hear the pitter patter of little feet in about 6 hours. so this will be short and sweet.
This evening I realized that no ones life is perfect. You might say "Duh, of course not". But often we thing that the grass is greener on the other side. We think that the 10 minute blurb of life we see as we observe people in public is the essence of their relationship. We may know people or have mentors we look up to and wish to emulate but they too have flaws, all of us do. The flaws in others that bother us the most make us want to cry out, "Why don't you change?"
The truth of the matter is that we can read all the self centered or God centered self help books we want, attend millions of seminars and retreats, but the only thing that will prove true to lasting change is applying Gods word to your life. And to your relationships. The Bible says-believe it or not, that "Whatsoever a man believes in his heart, so is he". So if you think you are not smart, then you are not smart. If you think you ill thoughts about people, especially those we claim to love, then we will reap the benefits of those ill words.
It's so easy to become bitter over the inactions of others that we think effect/infect our lives.
The problem with reconciliation is that first, we don't realize it can be a process and secondly, we always want the other person to change first (which reflects spiritually immaturity in our hearts). We say and hear it said, "If he/she changes, then I'll change" Or "If he/she says sorry, then I will" . Do we not get tired of the emotional turmoil and strength the reconciliation war taxes on us? Is there a point in our lives when we stop pointing the finger and making excuses and free ourselves by taking that first step?
The best thing you can do to change another person is to change yourself. And trust with all your heart that God will be faithful to his Word. But it's hard to believe even that if we don't know what his Word says.